Upset with myself

You know... sometimes this kind of feeling just shut me in a dark room... restrict me from talking. oh tidak, sangat takde mood nak mengarang in english. How do I express this? There are some time in my life that i will blame myself for whatever happened in my life, and also my surroundings.

I've been noticing that my kids are pretty out of shape.. Hannan is getting thinner,.. Hani also. Yesterday we went to Putrajaya clinic to have Hafiyya's 1 year old check up. Guess what? she is underweight, and the graph turned to yellow. uhuhuhu, I feel sad. Sometimes I do feel like I am good for nothing. I am not a good person, not a good wife, a bad mother? sucker?!  maybe its time to re-examine myself.

Give me a break!~ as I feel down! down! down!  Give me sometime to compose myself and I'll be back!

The Danger of Negative Expectations

I am pretty upset for the past few days because of a few things... especially on how I deal with my kids when they do mistakes. Come across this while finding some info on how to tame myself  :P

from here

Maybe right after this I can try to control myself, control how I react to my kids, my husband, my surroundings..  

Allahummaj 'alni sobura, waj a'lni syakura..  Our Lord! Pour out on us patience, and cause us to die as Muslims.(7:126) 

by Greg Smalley, Psy.D.

 

As humans, many of us are prone to notice and remember when we make mistakes more so than when we do something positive. In the same way, as parents, it's easy to get trapped into focusing on our child's mistakes.

Instead of getting good reports, many kids are faced with the tradition of listening to their errors recounted by their parents. Certainly we mean well. After all, it's our job to train our children to understand the difference between right and wrong. I realize that in my haste to teach my girls responsibility, manners, how to share, and a host of other things, I sometimes error on the side of focusing on their faults. 

The problem is that whenever we focus on negative things or have negative beliefs about someone, we will find evidence to support our view. This is called confirmation bias. In other words, we try to confirm what we believe about someone (positive or negative). If we are constantly focused on our child's poor behavior, we will start to view him or her through a negative lens. We will begin to expect that kind of behavior. Sadly, when this happens people tend to live up to or down to our expectations. 

One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to methodically notice what they do right on a daily basis. Marital researchers have discovered that when distressed couples began recording what the other mate did that was positive; the couple reported a substantial increase in their marital satisfaction. In the same way, make it a point to mentally record what your child does that is positive. I encourage you to share that with them before they go to bed. Imagine the positive effect on your children when the last word they hear that day is what they did right.

Red CD & red horse story

Hafiyya is riding red horse...

HFY : oh my! Let me down horse, I wanna get Mommy for some drinks! Ops... no.. no... my diapers is too heavy. Did I pee much?  is it time to change for a new diaper?

Horse : Yes, you did and now you stinky little monster, faster get changed!  *faint

(ada nampak ka itu kuda mau tumbang?)
Can you see that the horse is fainted?  * with big eyes open

NEW BLOG LAUNCH GIVEAWAY !

Hi all, this is gonna be the 1st ever give away I am joining. Though not so sure if it is still on. :P

Serious.. look! what she is offering:

 

Join here

Agree with me? this is YUMMEH! hihihi.  OKay lets talk about her new blog.


The purpose of this blog is to share her experience & selling Premium Beautiful. Have you ever heard of it?  :P  Oh please!! come on! OK, a confession here. I do have a set. LOL........ shhh...  review? It will be on another post!

My heart pecah

While driving to drop Hannan & Hani at kindy and rushing to work:

Hannan : Momy, tau tak... my heart pecah
Me : What??
Hannan : My heart pecah tu sakit hati laaa...

Me : Ha Ha Ha... ada plak mcm tu??  Why kids are soo adorable??  :))

Momy loves you very much Hannan... If you only knew...

Lactation Boosting Cookies Part 1

While blog hopping I found this:

http://blog.secretmothersclub.com/tag/lactation-cookies/

So I will just copy and paste it here.....

So here it is, the recipe for Lactation Boosting Cookies:

* 1 cup butter or marg
* 1 cup sugar
* 1 cup brown sugar
* 4 tablespoons water
* 2 tablespoons flaxseed meal*
* 2 large eggs
* 1 teaspoon vanilla
* 2 cups flour
* 1 teaspoon baking soda
* 1 teaspoon salt
* 3 cups oats, thick cut if you can get them
* 1 cup or more chocolate chips
* 2 tablespoons of brewers yeast* (be generous)

Directions:
Preheat oven at 375 degrees F. Mix together 2 tablespoons of flaxseed meal and water, set aside for 3-5 minutes. Cream (beat well) margarine and sugar. Add eggs one at a time, mix well. Stir flaxseed mixture and add with vanilla to the margarine mix. Beat until blended. Sift together dry ingredients, except oats and chips. Add to margarine mixture. Stir in oats then chips. Scoop or drop onto baking sheet, preferably lined with parchment or silpat. The dough is a little crumbly, so it helps to use a scoop.
Bake 8-12 minutes, depending on size of cookies.
Serves: 6 dozen cookies
Preparation time: 15 minutes
*can be found at any local health food store.

*NOTE* IT MUST BE BREWERS YEAST, NO SUBSTITUTIONS.
It makes a hell of a lot of cookies, so freeze the dough to use later!

Wait for my outcome soon in  Lactation Boosting Cookies part 2

Little Caliphs Year End Party

Very funny day today.. :)

Momy dressed up early to attend this, as informed by teacher Faiza we need to be at the said venue  at 8.00 a.m. When we arrived there the teachers werent there yet. There were a few parents was waiting. Oh God, it was actually rehearsal in the morning session, so parents need not to be there. Mommy is over excited as always. So, mommy & baba went home and left Hannan to rehearse their stage presentation. Hannan will be singing ablution song with her friends. She has been practising this for weeks.

Ablution song by 5 yo presentation: 

And, here,.. see,.. she was so distracted when Momy stand in front of the stage to take this photo!!! and... see, how cute she is! :P well, like momy perasantan. heh heh heh (read you dont see this)

And the final event is..... 

Jeng Jeng Jeng!!

Can you guess? what number she got? hi hi hi... I dont wanna say it! but trust me Hannan, Momy & Baba really proud of you!  Mommy and Baba will always adore you and loves you. Muaaachhss!!  Mommy sayang Hannan. Always remember that, okay?  :)